Ever notice how you can be in a crowd of people but still feel lonely?
America is a land of lonely people. Statistics say that over half of all Americans are lonely, (AJC.com).
According to Lost Connections, (pg. 75), lonely people are also anxious, have low self-esteem, are pessimistic, and are afraid other people will dislike them.
Loneliness leads to depression.
But wait a minute! Why are we so lonely when we live in a land with many other people? Most of us have family, friends, neighbors. So why?
Let’s define loneliness – again according to Lost Connections, (pg. 83) – Loneliness isn’t the physical absence of other people, but the sense that you’re not sharing anything that matters with anyone else.
God created us for community. When God created Adam before He created Eve, He stated, “It’s not good for man to be alone”, (Genesis 2:18).
We were created to be creatures of joy but joy only comes from healthy community. One of the elements of sustained joy in our lives is to have a multi-generational community, filled with the weak along with the strong – this is the description of a healthy community.
The key to overcoming our loneliness is connection – to God and people. Because we have broken away from God, our families are also broken, thereby breaking the ability for our children to have deep, healthy relationships.
Our path away from loneliness begins with God – to make our relationship right with Him again and seek His healing touch on those areas of our emotions that hinder our relationships with Him then others.
Our lives were meant to be VERTICAL and HORIZONTAL. We are meant to have healthy relationships with our creator God and others around us – deep meaningful relationships with those in our lives. But for most of us, we really are not very good at having those deep meaningful relationships with others (horizontal) until we fix our relationship with God (vertical). Our horizontal relationships are superficial at best. We keep people at at distance and build a wall to keep them out.
But it’s time we stop drowning our loneliness in a bottle, or losing our self in drugs, or the internet – that’s a big one. I was just reading about how people have become so addicted to the internet because of it’s false promise of connection with people. FACEBOOK??? That’s about the most unface – book there is. No real connection there. The internet promises to fill the empty heart but it has proven to be an empty promise!
God promises in Joshua 1:8 –
Be strong and courageous! Do not tremble or be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.
God also says in Acts 2:42 –
And they were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of break and to prayer.
It’s time we get connected – in a healthy way. With God first and then with others who are healthy for our emotional and spiritual well-being.
Father, I am so thankful You have invited me to fellowship with You through the blood of Jesus. I accept Your invitation. Teach me how to have a relationship with Someone I can’t see. Now, lead me to a group of people I can have deep meaningful relationships with. Give me courage to open my heart to others. Help me to escape from my special form of avoidance (the bottle, drugs, TV, internet). Bring a deep joy to my life that my soul so desperately needs. Amen.
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Hari, Johann. Lost Connections
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